One thing about the characters of this “Before” trilogy is that they are always rambling. And not the kind of rambling that’s set to annoy you or that kind of rambling that works so hard to be witty or intellectual. It is engaging but never contrived. Among other things, the appeal of this movie is that it makes you feel as if you are this one nosy person trying to eavesdrop into their conversation.
I watched Before Sunrise in the late 90s as a college student. I guess you are more receptive to take Jesse’s quips and existential thoughts like they are bible truth when you are less jaded, more idealistic. In that way you can suspend disbelief with complete ease. This is why Before Sunset, I could say, is the weakest of the three (at least for me). I was in my mid-20s, already a discerning young adult and thought of it as “just another sequel”. Not that I did not enjoy the movie.
But Before Midnight. Before Midnight, just like the first of the series simply hits home. It becomes though not completely relatable, familiar. And real. Linklater must be a genius to think “the Before Sunrise kids must be married now (or at least married once) and more world weary so why not a third movie?”
Jesse and Celine have aged and have gotten more fleshy and plump. They now have two kids and converse like an old married couple (though they are not officially married) who are now a little too familiar with each other. The conversations are still there. Just less pretentious and more practical.
The movie is bold enough to show you not only the peachy, honeymoon-y side of their relationship but even the ugly, rotten parts. That is just as real as it gets. Anybody who is or has been in a long-term relationship would agree that there comes a time when a relationship gets to a saturation point- as you get sucked into all the drudgery that is life, the spontaneity disappears. Besides, it’s not 24/7 that you have clever things to say to each other, or interesting stories to share. Then Jesse reminds you , “This is real life. It’s not perfect but it’s real.”
I feel sorry for those who lined up for this movie thinking it’s one of those run-of-the-mill Rom-Coms and got out of the cinema upset. But haven’t we had enough of those?
Before Sunrise, 1995. Before Sunset, 2004. Before Midnight, 2013. Whether Richard Linklater has something brewing for 2022 or not, Before Midnight beautifully caps off this engaging, unforgettable trilogy of all time.
"Right now this is great, I feel close to you, but sometimes I feel like you’re breathing helium and I’m breathing oxygen." -Celine
“You always play the part of the one and only rational one and I’m the irrational, hysterical, hormone-crazy one because I have emotions. You sit back and you speak from your big perspective which means that everything you say is level-headed and and true. The world is fucked by unemotional, rational men deciding shit…”- Celine (All women must have said this at least once in their life!)
"I accept the entire package- the crazy and the brilliant."- Jesse
"I’m ok with you being a complicated human being. I don’t wanna live a boring life where two people own each other, where two people are institutionalized in a box that others created because that is a bunch of stifling bullshit!"- Jesse
"This is real life. It’s not perfect but it’s real"- Jesse
Best of the 90s. Johnny Depp + Winona
Cakes have gotten a bad rap. People equate virtue with turning down dessert. There is always one person at the table who holds up her hand when I serve the cake. No, really, I couldn’t she says, and then gives her flat stomach a conspiratorial little pat. Everyone who is pressing a fork into that first tender layer looks at the person who declined the plate, and they all think, That person is better than I am. That person has discipline. But that isn’t a person with discipline; that is a person who has completely lost touch with joy. A slice of cake never made anybody fat. You don’t eat the whole cake. You don’t eat a cake every day of your life. You take the cake when it is offered because the cake is delicious. You have a slice of cake and what it reminds you of is someplace that’s safe, uncomplicated, without stress. A cake is a party, a birthday, a wedding. A cake is what’s served on the happiest days of your life. This is a story of how my life was saved by cake, so, of course, if sides are to be taken, I will always take the side of cake. — Jeanne Ray (via shetakesflight)
(Source: the-healing-nest, via colorontheceiling)
All time favorite piece of clothing: my 2-year old chambray. Love how it gets more character the more it’s worn and washed.
The GQ+A: Julie Delpy
Catherine Deneuve aside, you can pretty much thank Julie Delpy for keeping the American obsession with French women alive and kicking. There’s a reason we liked the 1995 Linklater-directed indie rom com Before Sunrise so much—Delpy’s Celine is hot, sophisticated, and witty, not one of those Katherine Heigl-type heroines who mistake tripping down some stairs for “being cute.” This month, Before Midnight, the insanely anticipated—it’s been nine freakin’ years!—third installment of the series drops in on Jesse (Ethan Hawke) and Celine, now in their early 40s with kids, and working through some Who’s Afraid of Virgina Woolf-level marital strife while summering in Greece. If that sounds like a turnoff, let us remind you there’s still plenty of bantering and philosophizing on postcard-worthy European side streets, and Delpy is charming as ever. That latter part is evidenced quite convincingly here.
Yesterday was an ordeal. I cried myself dry last night because of a dog.
Been four days since I posted what I thought to be a cute photo of my dog being her usual lazy self, she could barely lift her head. I thought she was just tired from a walk or too full from a meal, being the self-indulgent Beagle that she is.
What we thought to be just a bout of laziness happened to be an onset of something serious. The following day our dog refused to eat anything. She had diarrhea and constantly vomited. We took her to the vet yesterday. She tested positive for parvo virus. Do not read further if you don’t like dogs or think that giving that much love to a dog is ridiculous.
An emotional wreck, I was. The vet said 5 out of 10 dogs are able to pull through. I don’t like uncertainties. Never have. That grey area, that 50% chance of my dog not surviving stabs me in the chest.
Yesterday was an ordeal. The vet said the most they can do is give supportive treatment- they can keep the dog from further dehydration and secondary infections but to give a cure like what Paracetamol is to a fever, a specific medicine, they won’t be able to give. A pet owner can only hope for the best that his/her pet’s immune system is strong enough to fight the lethal virus.
Our vet recommended an animal hospital where our Beagle can be confined. It was a fully functioning hospital with consultation rooms, a fully-equipped laboratory, and an isolation room. It was at the isolation room where we left Daphne, our 2-year old Beagle. What I felt when I left her there I couldn’t even write about.
We ordered this one medicine from a local supplier. They have it shipped from the states and have limited stocks I had to bargain and negotiate like crazy for them to have it delivered to the hospital on-day. The crazy things one can do for a person, I wouldn’t mind doing for a dog. This medicine suggested by the vet is not generally accepted in their field yet. It is more of an alternative medicine, the drug being herbal. The success stories are high though, she said.
We are trying to keep our hopes high. All these for our little, though slightly-overweight hound.
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Last week at the IMMAP Summit, Maria Ressa spoke about the effects of social media on the brain, and OMG! I finally understood why I can’t seem to stay the heck away from Facebook and Twitter!
She’s quite the brilliant little firecracker, that Maria.
Anyway I was really relieved to…